Did you ever wonder why some people are just naturally more popular than others? Go back to elementary school for a moment. Who was popular? Is wasn't the really smart kid, right? That was usually a ticket to Nerdville. Initially, the group thinking about popularity was to sort for the strongest male and the prettiest female. Why that matters to a pack of 7 year old kids doesn't matter. Tall is better than short. More is better than less. Power is assigned on that scale within the group. That same primitive pattern is ingrained in the social strata so deeply that we are prone to choosing our leaders based more on how they appear, than what they say.
Why? ONTOlarity...What's that?
ONTOlarity: raw leadership that is assumed based on the external projection of an internal sense of authority, IOW - because I said so!
Who leads you? Can you name the ONTO's that have given you what you perceive to be bad advice, lousy directions, and downright hurtful and unsolicited criticism sometimes? OK, now drop the emotional side of it. Weren't they deadly accurate? When we're in a confused state, clarity seems ONTO to us, IOW, it seems like an oppressive force in our lives. But when we are the deliverer of wisdom, that clarity is like the wind in our sails and we can't understand why everyone is resistant to us. That's why the degree we can harness ONTOlarity is not up to us. The people who are ONTO's know this already. They view leadership as a verb, not a title.
ONTObility - refined leadership that is acquired based on a communal need to transfer authority, IOW - I can, so you can, so we can.
Seth Godin has both. He works it backwards a lot. Most ONTO's are content to get to the point where they can say 'I can' and that's the end of it. If an ONTO can't do something, they have a tough time letting anyone else do it, unless of course that something is done for them. LOL. Seth's books and blogs are only credible to the masses because he had the ONTOlarity (internal clarity) to act on his ideas with enough intent that even when he seemed outrageous and edgy, people still listened to him. ONTO's are able to be content with being popular with themselves. They see others who disagree they same we do when we experience that clarity they internalized during development, when life was about being strong or pretty.
Notice this. Was Seth the strongest, prettiest, or most influential in 2nd grade?
What ever happened to those punk asses anyway?
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