Did you ever wonder why some people are just naturally more popular than others? Go back to elementary school for a moment. Who was popular? Is wasn't the really smart kid, right? That was usually a ticket to Nerdville. Initially, the group thinking about popularity was to sort for the strongest male and the prettiest female. Why that matters to a pack of 7 year old kids doesn't matter. Tall is better than short. More is better than less. Power is assigned on that scale within the group. That same primitive pattern is ingrained in the social strata so deeply that we are prone to choosing our leaders based more on how they appear, than what they say.
Why? ONTOlarity...What's that?
ONTOlarity: raw leadership that is assumed based on the external projection of an internal sense of authority, IOW - because I said so!
Who leads you? Can you name the ONTO's that have given you what you perceive to be bad advice, lousy directions, and downright hurtful and unsolicited criticism sometimes? OK, now drop the emotional side of it. Weren't they deadly accurate? When we're in a confused state, clarity seems ONTO to us, IOW, it seems like an oppressive force in our lives. But when we are the deliverer of wisdom, that clarity is like the wind in our sails and we can't understand why everyone is resistant to us. That's why the degree we can harness ONTOlarity is not up to us. The people who are ONTO's know this already. They view leadership as a verb, not a title.
ONTObility - refined leadership that is acquired based on a communal need to transfer authority, IOW - I can, so you can, so we can.
Seth Godin has both. He works it backwards a lot. Most ONTO's are content to get to the point where they can say 'I can' and that's the end of it. If an ONTO can't do something, they have a tough time letting anyone else do it, unless of course that something is done for them. LOL. Seth's books and blogs are only credible to the masses because he had the ONTOlarity (internal clarity) to act on his ideas with enough intent that even when he seemed outrageous and edgy, people still listened to him. ONTO's are able to be content with being popular with themselves. They see others who disagree they same we do when we experience that clarity they internalized during development, when life was about being strong or pretty.
Notice this. Was Seth the strongest, prettiest, or most influential in 2nd grade?
What ever happened to those punk asses anyway?
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2 comments:
Soma Boy... damn was that good stuff! You are right on the money. I can think of a ton of examples of the ONTOs in my life fitting right into a lot of what you were talking about.
I just wish I knew about the domains years ago when I was in school... it would have been so helpful in dealing with authority figures and classmates. Thinking back to past jobs, things would have gone a lot smoother if I had known you...
I don't know how anyone functions without learning the about the 4 Domains and Neuro-Somatics.
BTW, those punk-asses in 2nd grade... I know where a few of them are right now and it ain't pretty! LOL
ADF-Sitting at the Air Desk, looking at boxes... will moving day ever get here?
My Father, my wife, and a couple of my best friends. Wicked ONTOs, and none of them pull punches...you get what they think and what they see every time, right or wrong. ONTOlarity can be frustrating and hurtful, AND as Dr. Mark said, usually deadly accurate...
My father is often wrong...never in doubt, in fact I used to joke with him that he should have a radio show with a call in number 1-800-CALL-NICK.
ONTOlarity is like a shiny beacon in in a storm to a floundering PHYLO, as it gives us hope and focus during times of confusion or despair. Even if it turns out that the advice wasn't the best, it was something, and at a time of despair or confusion, some focus is better than none...
My wife often doesn't know the answer to something, I mean like the specifics, a name or a direction, but she is always so clearly focused on what SHE wants, that she makes it easy for me to follow her lead...ONOTs get thrown under the bus a lot, because they can be huge pains in the asses, but a coherent ONTO with a good heart and a clear intent, is a very powerful ally to have.
Those punk-asses are another story, and we all know their story...or do we?
Happy ONTO week everybody.
With LOve and Gratitude,
Dr. Jeb
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